Everyone has his own unique ways to lessen their stress, sadness and anger.
As for me, these are basically what I'll do whenever I experience those feelings...
10 things I will do whenever I got messed up, depressed, sad and angry about something or someone:-
1- Eat, eat and eat!
Especially when I'm terribly angry about something or even at someone, the best way to cope with that anger is to eat as much as I want! I will just pick up anything as long as it's good and tasty and halal of course, I will eat it with the amount that I could have never taken before and I swear no one would believe I would eat that much. For example, nasi campur, I will eat at least 3 plates of nasi along with the lauk pauk and enjoy the meal as long as my tummy could accept. And as long as I haven't burped, I will continue eating until I'm full. This is one of the privileges a so-called skinny person like me, who is underweight can enjoy which is, no matter how much you eat, you will never gain weight! Aha!
2- Istighfar... seeking for Allah's forgiveness.
I think this is the best way to get rid of the anger which is conquering our heart. By reciting istighfar, it turns us back to our Lord and reminds us that we are just His servantsand we are too small compared to His greatness. It is somehow a wake up call for us to make us realize that no matter how many sins we commit, Allah still loves us and continue giving us His ni'mah and of course, bless our life.
3- Karaoke! Oh yeah!
My mom once told me that singing songs is a good exercise it can prevent us from getting heart disease! This is taken from a research. Yup, I totally agree with that. I don't know why but I think most people aware that singing is one of the best and the most relaxing exercise that anyone can do, especially to remove the stress. Maybe it's because when you sing, you can be all out without concerning about what others might think of how good your voice is because you let everything out of you heart. When you sing, especially a high tone/pitch type of song, like Ziana Zain songs, all the things that burden your heart will absolutely jump out of your heart as well as your body. That's what I always do to entertain myself. But since now I've already run out of money and I have no friends who like to sing as me, so, all I do is to go to the youtube and search for any playlists of my favourite singers. Take my water bottle, and karaoke myself and it feels like I'm singing on the stage in front of my fans. Haaa! It's a very exciting feeling that one could ever experience!
4- Drive the car over the limit!
Well, I'm not gonna elaborate on this but just to share what I normally do when I am angry is that, I'll start the car, and speed the care up to over 120 km. It's kinda dangerous (so don't try this at home). But it's a relief when you can actually express your anger by pressing the car pedals. When I'm doing this, I don't even care about what's going to happen to me at that time. I just leave it to Allah. If I were to die, I'm prepared because even now I can still die anytime if Allah wills. But I don't think it's considered a suicide because it goes back to my intention. I'm not doing that to kill myself, instead I'm showing my anger through driving a car. That's all! Even if I die in a car accident, I don't think anyone would care too.
5- Listen to radio
When I'm deeply sad about something or someone, I will usually turn on the radio, Lite Fm of course, as it's my favourite channel, and listen to all the English songs. Sometimes I tend to change the channel. I listen to as many songs as possible because when you are feeling lonely and you're listening to songs, you'll feel like the singers of those songs are actually talking to you and they have certain messages that they are trying to deliver to you in their songs. It's such a nice and warm feelings when someone can actually calm you by singing songs. The songs are like my lullaby.
6- Talking to myself
Like a crazy fella!
7- Cry, cry and cry as much as I want
I think this is the best therapy so far. Crying can ease all the burdens in my heart and it somehow makes all the pains that have been kept inside my heart go away. But the problem is, now, I don't have any shoulders to cry. If I'm a married person, I would definitely look for my husband's shoulders and let my tears to fall on them. I will hug him tightly until all the pain go away and until I feel cool again. But again, I've no husband. So, the only think I have to let my tears stream on it is my pillow.
Actually, I haven't done this method yet. However, it's worth a try. Playing with my make-up set can actually turn me into a younger kid. It brings me back to my childhood whereby I liked to play with my elder sister's lipsticks, eye shadows and blushers. I love to play with colours. So, whenever I feel sad about something or again someone, I will put on a dramatic make-up on my face. I choose either black, blue, green, orange or any dark eye shadows to colour my eyes making them look like ghost eyes and very bright pink blushers to colour both my cheeks. But I don't dare enough to apply dark lipticks on my lips because that's so not me. I'll look evil like a wicked witch or bitch! So, I'd rather not try any dark coloured lipsticks on. Well, by putting on a dramatic make-ups, I shall not worry because I'm wearing glasses anyway and no one would ever notice I'm wearing a horrible make-up ever! unless I put my glasses off :)
9- Sleep..... krohh... kroh..
Sleeping is just the right thing to do when you are in great pressure, terrible anger or even when you are truly hurt or upset by something or someone. Because when you sleep, everything will feel like going away and as you wake up from the sleep, suddenly you feel so fresh and somehow forget everything that had happened to you before that. You kinda like having a short-term memory loss! Oppsssiiieee....
10- Wudhu', solat, and Quranic recitation
No matter how much I'm depressed, sad or angry about something or someone, I never forget my role as a Muslim. Taking ablution, performing solat and reciting Quran are so powerful tools or methods that people from other religions don't own. I'm so lucky to be born as a Muslim because wherever I am or however I am, I could always talk to my God because He's is the Best Listener. He listens to my prayer everyday. Even if I don't speak it out, He still knows everything kept inside. I'm so proud that He's still here with me and He's always there for me when those people are keep stabbing me from the back.
*Bonus: Another way to release my pain, is to shout loudly!